How to Accept Couples Disadvantages
Everyone must have deficiencies, whether we or others also have their own weaknesses. In matters of marriage the problem that often arises is the inability of a person in accepting the weakness and lack of partner. To get a happy family requires a long process and one of them is to accept the weakness, which is found in our partner. Here are tips on accepting weaknesses and lack of partners to get a family sakinah, mawaddah and warohmah.
Learn to never see the shortcomings of your spouse, and try to see the deficiencies found in ourselves. Make a sort of list of ourselves, honestly written down in your lack of self. That way, we do not feel to be the perfect self that can accept your partner's shortcomings.
If the deficiencies found in your partner can harm the family, try to discuss. Talk to him. Say the objection is polite and gentle, to the nature and behavior that we feel is not true. Find the right solution for the common good to create a happy home.
The deficiencies in the spouse should not be used as material to derogate them. Provide a spirit that can build confidence and struggle to cover up the existing shortcomings.
Do not harbor resentment in yourself, if you find a problem with its shortcomings. It would be better, if you are honest and say it well and polite. Try not to be emotional. If we harbor and silence the affair, you will become antipathy and then can Raise the conflict that eventually ends in a fight.
Try together to find a solution to the deficiencies of each partner. For example, our partner likes to snore, you can take her to consult a doctor. Take your partner with you. If you must follow therapy, accompany our partner in the therapy activities. Our presence will be very useful for his recovery. In fact, he is happy, because we always accompany him even though he has realized the shortcomings that exist in him.
Cover our partner's shortcomings in front of others. Do not add to the burden by telling the shortcomings of others. It would hurt her. Quite simply you know, because your partner will increasingly feel inferior when the shortcomings contained in him is known by others.
Look for information and tips to overcome the shortcomings contained in him. There is a lot of information you can find in the media about what is considered a deficiency in the couple. Then you can follow the directed steps. Remember that what you are doing is for the common good.
Learn sincerely and accept the shortcomings. If we sincerely and succumb to the shortcomings contained in him. No human beings are perfect in both nature and behavior. Therefore if you want to form a sakinah family, try to continue to learn sincerely and accept all the shortcomings contained in your spouse