Lying children What to do?

A lie for profit, to obtain forbidden pleasures is that type of falsehood that, if possible, should be stopped from the beginning, at the first signs of the appearance of such dishonest behavior.

SourceIn no case can one close one's eyes to such a lie, it would also be wrong to justify a child who is still small. A child who can lie to achieve what he wants can recognize all the irregularities of such behavior and understand the validity of the punishment.

A lie, precisely a lie, not a fantasy, is a split, disharmony in a person, which are not originally characteristic of him, but are acquired in the process of development and socialization. The deceiver does one thing, and says another, affirms that something is true, and at the same time understands that it is not so. The state of duality, internal dissonance is not pleasant.

In children, especially children, the experiences caused by falsehood (anxiety, guilt, remorse, fear of being caught) are clearly visible from the outside, and the attentive father will realize that something is wrong with the child or the daughter.

It is important not to skip these unpleasant first steps where the child learns to lie to get benefits. When a child feels through his own experience all the ease and impunity of achieving the desired with the help of a lie, it will be much more difficult to return to the path of honest behavior.

How should parents react if they discover that their child, who seems so small and spontaneous, has been deliberately deceived by the pleasure of a thing or an event?

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• Let's start with the fact that in no case can the fact of lying be ignored.
• Then, you should give the child the opportunity to talk about the incident and atone for his guilt. Do not pretend that you do not know when it is not.
• Finally, it is very important that parents do not allow children to enjoy the fruits of deception. If the desired thing has already been achieved and the child has enjoyed the forbidden or undeserved fruit as much as possible, it will be fair if in the future that pleasure will be deprived for some time. In this case, it is quite reasonable to explain to a child that his act deserves a punishment, which could be, for example, the deprivation of sweets for the next week. If a lie has also harmed another person, then the deceiver will have to ask for forgiveness in front of him.

Often the children, in order to reduce the torments of conscience by the perfect offense and additional deception, devalue the importance of the tasks.

The task of the parents is to show the child how things really are: what feelings or problems arose in others due to their behavior; What parents feel because the child is cheating them.

Reference:

1. https://atusaludenlinea.com/2017/11/09/ninos-mentirosos-que-hacer/
2. http://blogs.hoy.es/escuela-de-padres/2014/09/28/que-hacer-cuando-nuestros-hijos-mienten/

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