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RE: Fighting with your mom, does it do you any good?

in #ecotrain7 years ago

What's so fascinating to me here is that I can understand how you feel from the perspective of a daughter. My mom doesn't understand me. She loves me fiercely, but we are quite different. As a mother, though, I know that it's a bit of a different story. When I gave birth to my oldest, the first call I made was to my mom, and I told her that I was sorry I had been such a shit and that I never knew she loved me so much. In that one moment I understood a love that I had never been privy to before. As a mother who chose a very different path of motherhood, I have a very different relationship with my children than I did with my mother. With one nearing 20 and another at 16 (ok, so the other two are 5 and 4, and we can't yet predict how they'll come out), I can say that my children are free to be who they are. I respect their choices even when I know they are choosing a hard road. They can do however they want. I will always share my opinion because that's me, but I know them well enough to know how they got where they are, and their choices will always be theirs. And they will always know that my love for them is unconditional and infinite. It's hard being a mom, and it's hard being a daughter.

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Thanks for this perspective. Yes, I guess it IS possible to make your own choices and still have respect from your mother. And as a mom to be giving that, maybe that is just the next generation of mothers that are good at that.... I had written this when I was seeing things very black and white and needed something clear to understand the dynamics between my mother and me, for myself. Maybe it would have been better to just have written it in my diary. ..

I think it's always good to get that stuff out there. I feel like that's my favorite thing about Steemit. I share way more here than anywhere else. I definitely understand how you feel, and I know how frustrating it is. That's why I was so committed to doing something different with my kids. And I certainly hope my kids will do a better job than I have. The mother/daughter dynamic is always a hard one.

Thanks for your understanding. Yes, I also hope ever generation will get better at it, including myself when God grants me a child.

Aw, that's SO good to hear! Thank You!

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