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RE: Are women who dress provocatively responsible for unwanted attention, or should men learn to control themselves? The @ecotrain question of the week
The biological imperatives are real, for both women desiring to be found attractive and men desiring to respond. it's an eternal dance, a poem, a song... and I don't think it will ever neatly fit into an intellectually constructed box. Me? Im happy that there is no clear answer and that a delicious tension remains. I say that as a woman who has also been violently raped, and yet who has come to accept that the myriad of signals we send out may be misheard, and that so many of our brothers are also frustrated, angry and desperately in need of intimacy and connection. Grateful for your perspectives.
wow.. im SO sorry .. i was going to write at the end of this post, that maybe 80% or more of the women i have known have been abused.. it is one of the unspoken things that is vastly underestimated.
i really love how you say about that 'delicious tension', what a way to put it! this was surely a hard post to write, im not even sure i know how i feel even after writing it!
hugs to your perfectly healed arm <3
Hugs back. :) It IS a delicious tension and will always be an art more than a science. We CAN heal and release the wounds we carry... and we are better, stronger women, men and lovers for it. The part of us which has been gouged and healed feels more deeply and holds a greater depth.