Poor thinking will ruin your child's life

去年年底，电视剧《人民的名义》热播。相信很多追过这部剧的人，对国家某部委处长赵德汉这个人物留下了深刻的印象。他清楚的记得自己收受贿赂的金额——两亿三千九百九十九万五千四百元！

而面对满满一冰箱的人民币，他说出了这样一句话：我一分钱都没用，我家祖祖辈辈都是农民，穷怕了！

虽然赵德汉就、已经当了处长，但仍然是“穷怕了”，从表面上看，是小时候家境贫寒缺乏安全感的后遗症，但其根本原因是：儿童时代，金钱观没有收到家长良好的教育和引导。

与孩子谈钱，的确是每一位父母无法避免的教育话题。聪明的父母从来不会跟看、孩子哭穷，而是努力拼搏着。

最近，我家小宝爱上 吃车厘子。车厘子本身不便宜，而极品级且品相好的一斤也没多少个，而小宝一天吃一斤根本不在话下。

虽然我已经提前做好功课，告诉我的母亲大人，是打折才买的。但作为中国传统老年人的她来看，买这么贵的水果给孩子吃，还是有诸多不满。“太贵了，这东西有什么好吃的？”“死贵的，吃了身上多块肉吗？”

小宝一边吃，一遍细心观察我妈妈的反应。后来，有次带小宝去超市，他看到车厘子的价签，突然对我说就句：妈妈，车厘子太贵了，我不吃了。我听了心里一酸，一股“孩子连水果都吃不起”的悲凉从心底窜出来。

我不想让孩子养成“要什么给什么”的习惯，也不想对孩子故意苛刻，把那个“穷”字从小就刻在他的脑门上。我希望我的孩子知道，车厘子好吃，苹果也不错。选择哪一个，是因为自己喜欢，而不是因为哪个比较便宜。

不过，想自己的孩子不被穷养，不能通过克扣自己的方式，唯一的可行之路，是自己努力赚钱。而当我们为了某个目标努力追求钱的时候，其实也是在努力追求人生更多的选择，以及更大的自由！

At the end of last year, the TV series "The People's Name" was hit. I believe many people who have followed this drama have left a deep impression on the character of the deputy director of the country, Zhao Dehan. He clearly remembered the amount he had accepted for bribes - 239,995,400 yuan!

In the face of a RMB full of refrigerators, he said such a sentence: I have no use for a penny, and my family is a peasant for generations.
Although Zhao Dehan had already been a director, he was still “poor and afraid”. On the surface, it was the sequelae of the lack of security in a poor family when he was a child. However, the fundamental reason was that in childhood, the concept of money did not receive good parents. Education and guidance.

Talking about money with children is indeed an education topic that every parent cannot avoid. Smart parents never watch, children cry poor, but work hard.

Recently, my family Xiaobao fell in love with Cherries. The cherry itself is not cheap, and there isn't a lot of good grades and good quality goods, and Xiaobao can't help but eat a pound a day.

Although I have done my homework in advance and told my mother, it was a discount before I bought it. However, as a traditional Chinese old lady, she still has many dissatisfactions when she buys such expensive fruits for her children. "It's too expensive. What's so good about this thing?" "Dying expensive, eat a lot of meat on your body?"

Xiao Bao, while eating, carefully observed my mother's reaction again. Later, there were times to take Xiao Bao to the supermarket. He saw the price tag of the cherry and suddenly said to me: "My mother, the cherry is too expensive. I don't eat it. I heard a sour heart, and the sadness of a child, who couldn't even afford to eat fruit, came out of my heart.

I don’t want my child to develop the habit of “what to give,” nor does he want to be harsh on the child. He has carved the “poor” word on his head since childhood. I hope my child knows that the cherry is delicious and the apple is not bad. Which one you choose is because you like it, not because it is cheaper.

However, the only feasible way to think that your child is not being poor and cannot be deducted from his own is to work hard to make money. When we strive for money for a certain goal, we are actually trying to pursue more choices in life and greater freedom!