@bobaphet I really appreciate what you shared here. The word "expectations" is what stands out to me the most while reading this. This, in my opinion, is at the heart of most of my experience in poly. Things become simpler as I realize that I have wants and needs - and then expectations about those wants and needs. The more I detach from the expectation and focus more on communicating and making choices based on the responses I receive, the easier and simpler my experience becomes.

Lets chat soon bro!