I find it so interesting how different people view jobs and success. As a whole, we need to people that are willing to work jobs just as much as we need people to go out and create jobs themselves. I think the irony of your friend's stance, is that she wouldn't have a job if it weren't for someone else starting a company and working for themselves. Would she consider the founder of her company to be jobless?
that actually would be rather interesting if she currently had a job. She's been living on an inheritance and unable to replace the job she had due to the shrinking industry she's in.
Your point is well taken. There is room and a need for both mindsets.