Handling Criticism

Do you have a negative connotation for criticism? Is every feedback you get a sign of someone "beefing" you? What is your natural reaction when you are ignored, rejected or told to improve?

See, criticism is an inevitable part of human interaction. And you need it if you must grow and move forward. Some may be harsh, uncalled for, have a wrong timing or simply innocent but it is a part of growth you should embrace.

So how do you handle criticism?

-Listen. One of the elements of effective communication is the ability to listen. If you take your time to listen attentively, you will pick the message from what is being said and what is not being said. Don't be too quick to assume what the person wants to say or where the discussion is heading. Pay close attention to message. What is being said verbally and non-verbally?

• Get the message. A lot of times because of the person making the criticism or the tone of the voice of the person, we entirely ignore the core of the feedback we receive. You must be able to separate the message from the messenger else you miss it entirely.

-Don't take it personal. It's not about you. This is also responsible for the nervousness and fear you may experience when making presentations. You are so concerned about your image, ego, personality that you miss the beauty of the moment. You are not the focus. Don't take criticisms to heart.

-Smile. It doesn't cost a thing. Life is short to keep engaging in bad blood and holding grudges with people. You are posing a risk to your health. Increased levels of stress and heart beat rate can lead to more serious health challenges for you. When criticized, just SMILE, it doesn't have to be a broad one. Be happy. Your best is ahead.