I have to feel good (or not?)

We all have a voice in our head and it says that you have to feel good. Is it true?

Feeling good all the time is not realistic actually. We have a right to feel bad, depressed or sad. It is okay! If you try to avoid your bad feelings they will become more intense. So let them to stay with you for a while.

You will know the time when to do something to cope with it. You may need a week to overcome your breakup or maybe 3 days. It depends. So comparison of yourself may not help you to heal. Try to stay in the moment even it is hard and try to accept that time heals.

When i talked to people who feel sad and depressed, they think that they have depression. Person who is depressed mostly has huge difficulty to go out, to eat (or maybe too much eating), insomnia (or maybe too much sleep). You may have these symptoms but this may not prove that you have depression because diagnosis of depression is made when the symptoms experienced for 2 weeks. You may experience these symptoms because of the life event that make you sad.

Be patient. It will go.

There are some methods actually may help you to feel better. If you are sad because of a person you may:

-write a letter to that person and explain your feelings.Write everything in your letter that you cannot say into her/his face. After the letter most of the people feel relieved.

-imagine the scene. If there was a conversation that you could not say what you want to say, you may imagine that conversation and make it like you said what you want to say. After that imagine the other person's reaction. You have the power because you are the creator of this conversation.

-define your emotion. It may seem funny but research supports that. When you define your emotion and say it loud (I feel angry) you decrease the activation of amygdala (the center of emotions in the brain) because you activated other region in the brain. Also this will increase the awareness of emotions.

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Hope to see you next time!