RE: Self Indulgence or Self Love?
Yeah, we are essentially saying the same thing.
I still dare to say "no direct impact" because when, as you said, they are responsible for their own state of mind then whatever we do with OUR life not gonna make it easier or harder for them. It's just gonna be an arrangement by universe (if you believe in it) for both side to get what they need to get out of situation and encounter.
Since self love results in love of others in it's very core, the moment we think it's about them, before we think it's about us (not talking about being selfish in classic meaning of it) we gonna get out of that flow of love for both side. If, honestly in our very core, we feel doing something, it's what good for all regardless of whatever feelings anyone else has about it. They are supposed to feel that way because they need it right here and right now to grow, imo.
It's very good man! I love these conversations.
if I were in a place of 100% balance and peace, I would see it that way (if that were the case, I probably would be off on other realms), but I’m not and so seeing myself as having partial responsibility is really just me having responsibility for where I’m at, and where I’m at is in a situation where perhaps someone isn’t happy with me, that also doesn’t occur for no reason, you know? Sometimes it’s just a test, and sometimes it’s cause I’m not as clear and focused and balanced as I’d sometimes like to believe I am and so I think that kind of sense of responsibility can avert some real selfishness and blind spots. I hope I worded that well enough, I’m walking somewhere as I type,
I believe we get to that 100% balanced and peaceful condition when we love ourselves 100%. When someone isn't happy with us if we still cultivate the ability of selflove, then we are there and everything gets 100% balanced.