This is how one makes decisions

1. establish ideals on a physical , mental and spiritual level...write them down

2. ask a choice this...does this choice glorify my ideal on a physical, mental or spiritual level?--yes/no
   example: lets say one of my ideals on a physical level is health....Now someone asks me to smoke.....i ask this choice
   a Q ....will smoking make me more healthy or less.....yes/no........its that simple !!

In the absence of this self definition your choices will entice you with the saying...you gotta try it once !

1. Doing this consistently unfolds a future that will happen.....but if one is inconsistent in this process the future
   keeps getting altered and life becomes fateful than a life of creating your reality

It can be said further that this lack of self definition by not being mindful of our feelings and knowing our ideals will make.life at times seem boring, uneventful and without any purpose.