Jealousy: man is jealous of sex and woman is jealous of love

When people's intimacy is threatened, they will naturally feel jealous. Whether it is a man's Nianhua La grass, or a woman's affair, will give their partners to bring physical and mental pain. A puzzling fact is that many men in the body after derailing can get a woman's tolerance and understanding. But their own women once the body derailed, men are usually not soft-hearted, they furious, often righteously demanding divorce. The more extreme is that women's physical betrayal are harshly sanctioned in some cultures, and violence against them is not just their own men, but also usually their own parents or brothers, who have killed her in order to maintain the honor of the family honor , No mercy. Whether it is a real reaction or cultural provisions, it seems to some extent with the sex jealousy of gender differences: men are more concerned about the female body betrayal, and women are more concerned about the feelings of men betrayed. So, this man because of sex and jealousy woman for the idea of ​​jealousy, whether it is a scientific fact?

The answer goes back to 1992, and David Bass, a professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, published a paper with his colleagues in his top journal of Psychology. In this refreshing article, Bass explicitly stated that jealousy, as an ancient evolutionary mind, is meant to encourage people to take measures to see their other half, or else they may incur great losses and regret it. For men, the fate of a woman derailed is that she may be pregnant with other children, they are likely to be kept in the dark for a long time, their limited resources to invest in rival children. In addition, the woman to wear a green hat to their own will make a huge opportunity to cost and reputation costs: his beautiful time could have been with another really love him also willing to give his children to spend their children, his social status will be And plummeted, in the man heap was looked down on. Women certainly do not have to worry about their children's identity. However, men derailed will bring loss to a woman: their men will not sleep with other women pregnant with her children, but if you love the other side of the problem: his time, energy, resources, care, Care, protection and a series of important resources are likely to switch from domestic to export, their own life with their children will be a big problem. The betrayal of this intimate relationship is continually staged in the Stone Age environment. For millions of years, men and women who have successfully solved these problems have become victorious, and they have more offspring than the losers, and these descendants have the same problem-solving procedures as their ancestors. Is jealousy.

Bath pointed out that the man's emotional betrayal will be a woman to bring greater losses, the same woman's physical betrayal have the same effect. Therefore, even if the body betrayal and emotional betrayal are painful things, men and women will be slightly different jealousy: men are more concerned about the woman's body betrayal, women care about the feelings of men betrayed. In his study, Bass asked people to imagine that they faced two bad situations: one is his partner fell in love with someone else, a partner with each other to bed. They need to choose which scene is more painful. In this dilemma, men usually choose to betray the body, while women choose emotional betrayal. In addition to the questionnaire survey, Bath uses the physiological measurement of the way, the result is the same. Think of friends with others love, the man's heart rate increased five times per minute, as if suddenly drank three cups of coffee. In contrast, the partner's body betrayal causes the woman to react more intensively.

Over the next two decades, David Bass's classic results were supported by many follow-up studies. Psychologists from different countries use different research methods, the recruitment of different subjects, the design of different options model, the results are the same. Gender differences in jealousy have even aroused the attention of brain scientists. In 2006, Japanese researchers led by Professor Takahashi used functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) to examine the brain response when humans face the orbit scene. They found that male and female sex jealousy activation of the brain area is different: the activation of the brain area with sexual and attack related to the activation of the brain area with the intention to try to figure out and deceive detection related. This means that sexually jealous differences between men and women are supported at the neurological level, in addition to their support at the psychological and physiological level.

Time In 2010, two American psychologists examined the jealousy of people in the context of the network. They recruited more than 300 undergraduates, so that half of the students to answer the problem of derailment of the network, the other half to answer the question of the derailment of reality. In addition to choosing the body derailment or emotional derailment is more jealous, these students also for each kind of conditions under the derailment type emotional evaluation. The results show that 62.3% of men and 33.7% of women think that the partner's body is more jealous, and 66.3% of women and 37.7% of men think that partner feelings are more jealous; , 72% of women and 49.1% of men think that partner feelings are more jealous, 50.9% of men and 28% of women think that the body is more jealous. It can be seen that the response to the derivation of the reality and the derailment of the network is the same, and the difference in sexual jealousy between men and women is the same. Researchers from the Netherlands also came to a similar result in 2009. It seems that the network does not change the human jealousy, nor does it change the expression of jealousy.

The network, as a new environment, can not modify our jealousy instincts in extreme times, because the remains of the human mind is the ancient psychology of the millions of years of evolutionary history. Sex jealousy is also activated by clues to physical betrayal or emotional betrayal, and this activation has brought many human benefits to the Stone Age, but it is a matter of whether we can bring the same benefits to the Internet age. As a burning passion, sexual jealousy will change the state after the light, encourage them to take the necessary measures to protect the intimacy may be destroyed, or simply abandon this intimate relationship, looking for the next home. Even if the modern society invented a variety of contraceptive measures, between love and pregnancy has no necessary causal relationship. Can a man hear their own men and other men go to bed or will be a big furious, even if he knew the two sides used tight contraceptive measures, and hospital tests also show that their women will not be pregnant. Similarly, a man in the know their own women on the Internet with other men naked chat or remote sex, but also painful jealousy, he certainly know that the two people do not have physical contact, not pregnant. But the jealousy of this instinctive psychology and no self-knowledge, it will only be automatically in the environment of all kinds of betrayal clues to activation. - jealousy is like a sensitive and loyal love sentinel, see suspicious characters will be carefully questioned, even if the cross is a good man.

The emergence of the network makes interpersonal contact with more convenience, anonymity and privacy, but also makes looking for spouses and betrayal spouses have a new place. There is a close relationship between the betrayal of intimate relations, and there is a betrayal of the threat of betrayal warning. Sex jealousy is a private detective in our heart, ready to carry out some exploration of a variety of betrayal clues (whether on the network or in reality). We need to learn to treat the private detective, read his investigation report carefully, listen carefully to his advice advice, in order to better protect their own intimate relationship.