Quite a story there @samstonehill. I was born in 81 but followed that part of history. I feel sorry that something like this happened to your family in my country. That may well be the darkest age in Philippine history until the Marco's regime ended.

I am not into politics, but I really feel that things have changed for the better recently. We have a president who refuses to be a puppet to uncle Sam. Not saying that he is faultless though. Still I think you may be putting too much at risk by wanting to visit, we do not know if the personalities involved at that time still holds power somewhat through their living relative.

I suggest thinking really hard, and decide only to come after getting some strong assurances. I sadly cannot give you that. I am happy to host you once you've decided. Just hit me here in any of my post.