Reject the benefits of others

Everyone has his or her own circle of friends. The more friends you have, the more popular you are. Of course, you also help them a lot. Good friends rely on feelings, while shallow friends are protected by all kinds of interests. You help me, and I help you. It's good for everyone. However, in some occasions, such as work, you do not want to do, and not good to refuse, to increase the burden on yourself, refused to do us any good?
If you are eager to ask for help, according to their actual situation to promise him, after all, he will not harm you, it is really encountered difficulties. If friendship is common, consider whether it will affect you. Therefore, we must know how to refuse, refuse, of course, can not say directly, we must master some words. Colleagues find your help, you do not want to go, but not good refusal, then you can and colleagues said: "the leadership of the problem has not been addressed, or busy, or beyond your efforts, the scope of your ability, can not help.".
Between friends all is mutual trust, if a friend of a friend to borrow money from you like, we must pay attention to, for those who do not understand, can refuse to more easily, to say do not say too many reasons to refuse, it can be said, such as the home money, relatives borrowed words. Good quality people will understand you, poor quality people will think you mean. Through this incident, we can see what is worth paying and who needs to stay away.
Good friend, the serious when also need serious, as long as this may involve interest, balance will be broken, so we should learn to refuse to speak first, you will feel relaxed and on their own, others are good.