the busyness of parents to children do not have a place to vent

mulyadedi (44)in #busy • 7 years ago (edited)

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on this occasion I want to share about the busyness of parents to forget with affection to his child.

Parent busyness is the main cause of lack of communication in the family. Parents should be able to and should be able to spend time chatting with their children, or more curious about what it does at school.

"Or what are the activities of the child, so the child feels that their parents care about them, and for the child, sometimes personal things, such as going out, children prefer stories to friends rather than to parents
I'm sure the parent's busyness sometimes ignores the attention for the child. Most parents assume the need to meet the children's and family's material is the ultimate and everything. So the time is there sebahagian big, even entirely, consumed without the rest to whose name is looking for money.

Due to the condition, the child finds a solution to solve the problem to the person who considered close just because of the limitations of his parents. And it is no wonder that the nearest person becomes the last person to know the child's problem, and the problem is usually acute.
actually the role of parents will be the growth of the child's personality is very large, because parents must and must give wholehearted attention about all activities and problems of children. However, as the times progressed, that's what spaced the distance between children and parents.

For example gadgets, children spend more time with gadgets and sharing activities / vent, even chatting on social media with friends, so that the role of parents as no longer needed. Therefore, parents should be quick to respond if there is a slight change of child behavior.

Some parents neglect their homes, are outdoors for long periods of time, thus endangering anal-children by various slander and calamity, alienation and behavioral aberrations. Among the portraits of this issue are:
a. The busyness of parents on business and commerce that neglects children. If parents were like this - be warned, then they would answer, "Actually I am working for their needs."
b. Long trips abroad for business or travel.
c. Gathered with friends for long periods of time at leisure (leisure) and recreation places.
d. Forget the first house (first wife) when someone remarries with a new wife, and lives with a new wife in one house. How many polygamous people forget their first house (wife). So, eventually he neglected his children, so they are not controlled because of the busyness and distance (terpotapan hati) their parents.
e. Here are some portraits of busyness (in a long time) outdoors. How many abandonment behaviors of children. How many ways to bring them to disaster and slander, how many of them do not feel the affection, care and maximum care of their parents. What a beautiful verse that a poet sings:
It is not that orphaned
A child left behind by both parents
And both left him in humiliation
Truly the orphan
A person who has both parents
However, her mother left home and her father was busy Source from: http://wahdah.or.id/kalalaian-and-personal-parents-in-the-school

Lack of affection from the father will have a prolonged negative impact on the child. In fact, an adult child will still feel the impact of the lack of a father role in his life.

Children raised by fathers who often invite their children to talk, hug, accompany, and support their potential tend not to experience depression in adulthood. Thus, the absence of the father will have the opposite effect.

In fact, even if the father lives with the family at home, the busyness or indifference of the father to his or her child is the same as his absence. Because the father's role in child development is so central that the lack of affection from the father can be felt as the absence of the child's desirable figure.

Although many opinions say that the absence of one of the parents will make the child more independent, but the perceived side effects also can not be ignored. Because independence is driven by situations that force the child to live, not the consciousness that arises as a responsible person.

Especially if the abandoned child is often seen her mother suffered for the absence of a husband at his side and sad siblings while seeing other children who have a father.

Here are some of the impacts that occur from lack of love from fathers in a child's life:

Low confidence
Children who are ignored by their fathers tend to have low self-esteem. Lack of appreciation from people closest, then they feel that he is not good enough and deserve attention by his immediate environment.

Lack of affection from dad will even make them feel that they are not worth to be happy. This attitude of mistrust will bury their true potential.

Fear of abandonment
As adults, children who lack the love of the father will be a person who fears neglected or abandoned by others. Most will feel that their closest friends (friends and spouses) one day will ignore him as his father did when he was a child.
Have problems with closeness with others
The child will grow into a possessive personality to the person who gives him attention. In addition, it will be hard to get close to others.

His unfriendly and suspicious attitude makes him the one who makes his partner uncomfortable even though his partner has tried hard to convince him that he can be trusted, the lack of affection from the father will still make them think that everyone will basically do just as his father once did.

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