Boundaries Series

A few things about boundaries:

Boundaries are Nourishment. If someone/thing is not nourishing to/for you, that is a Nope.

Boundaries do not have to be said or given 'with love' they require clarity.

It is not up to someone ELSE to respect my boundary, I am the only one who has to respect them.

If someone oversteps my boundaries repeatedly, I KEEP my boundary and leave or cease contact with the person.

Other people will often think your boundaries are unfair or too much...SO WHAT...they are your boundaries, keep em clear.

Boundaries are about responsibility and porous boundaries are almost always taking responsibility for others.

If you take responsibility for others emotions/behavior/experience etc your boundaries will be almost non-existent.

No boundaries IS nonexistence. Without them, one will feel invisible, not seen or heard, like they do not exist.

When we get clear in our boundaries at FIRST, it may feel like betraying the human race. It can feel both terrifying and liberating.

Boundaries never need defending. Simply held steadily.

**Boundaries are one of my superpowers because I used to have next to none. For me, when I began to be a more clear stand for myself...I would hold a boundary and then cry..it was soooo unusual to my nervous system. It was difficult to decipher my own needs from those of others. I felt like I was doing something terribly wrong if I was clear.

I am so glad I allowed myself to relearn how to create and hold the boundaries in my life that nourish me and keep me within my own clarity.

It really is up to me.

**Children have clear boundaries that are violated in many ways daily and cause them, as adults, to not know how to hold nor respect boundaries...their own and those of others.

In adult-child relationships it is NOT the child's responsibility to hold their boundaries it is the adult's responsibility to hear and respect the child's.

Rules are NOT boundaries so expecting a child to respect rules and treating them like boundaries is insanity.

Children NATURALLY respect boundaries when theirs are respected and often even when theirs are not.

The list above the ** is for boundaries between adults.