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Books are deeply personal things. Each of us form unique bonds with the characters we read about, relate to storylines and personalities in different ways and enjoy all sorts of genres from crime to romance, gothic to fantasy.
Take a look at this bookand see if he grab your fancy
the book is The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Book by Stephen Covey
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”, by Stephen Covey, is the title of one of the best selling books of the last few years. It is about personal leadership, from which can follow leadership of others.

Covey's work on the seven habits began with a review of “success” literature going back over 200 years. He identified a shift over the last fifty years away from a concentration on character and core values, what he calls the Character Ethic, towards a concentration on behaviour and actions, what he calls the Personality Ethic.

Covey’s research led him to propose an approach to successful management called Principle-Centred Leadership and to successful life called Principle-Centred Living. His belief is that we cannot become more successful or better people just by changing our outward behaviour or attitudes. We first have to address our principles, the way we see things in the world around us, our perceptions of others. We will then start behaving towards others in a way that is consistent with those principles.

Covey argues that the principles we should adopt are timeless principles that underpin all civilisations, communities, religions and ethical systems. He lists principles such as fairness, integrity, honesty, human dignity, service, quality, excellence, potential, growth, patience, nurturance and encouragement.

Covey’s seven habits describe a way of thinking, living and doing that is consistent with these principles. The habits take considerable commitment to achieve. We first have to break old habits and adopt new ones. Covey suggests we work at the seven habits in order as they follow what he calls the maturity continuum, dealing first with dependence, then independence and finally interdependence.

The Seven Habits :

1. Be proactive

This habit is about taking control of our lives. It involves :

Not allowing our lives to be shaped by other determining factors
Accepting responsibility for our actions and for what happens to us
Making our own decisions
Choosing our response to our circumstances
Not seeing our selves as passive victims in others’ games.

1. Begin with the end in mind

The second of the seven habits is about having clear goals, based upon principles and what we want to be. Covey suggests two ways of clarifying these issues. First, by considering what we would want people to say about us at our funeral. Secondly, by developing a personal mission statement that clarifies what we want our lives to be about.

1. Put first things first

This habit is about having clear priorities, and spending our time and resources in a manner consistent with those priorities. To help us focus on these priorities, Covey challenges us to identify the one thing that we are not doing now that if we did it on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference to our lives.

Covey suggests we should devote our time and energies to those important things that contribute towards achieving our goals, rather than reacting to the urgent things arise from short-term emergencies.

1. Think win / win

The fourth habit in Covey's list of seven habits is about cooperation rather than competition. While recognising that competition in the market - and between teams - is important, competition within teams or between individuals working to achieve a common goal can be counterproductive.

This habit is about achieving mutual benefit for all parties involved. This achieves shared commitment to an agreed course of action, as opposed to resistance and resentment from the loser. Much management thinking is now built on this principle and supply chain management is finding the benefits of this approach.

1. Seek first to understand … then to be understood

This habit is about the quality of the communication process between two parties. Active listening is about searching for meaning, gathering and clarifying information to develop an understanding from the other’s point of view. Only then can we communicate our thinking and ideas in a way that is likely to be accepted by the other.

Just as doctors have to diagnose (listen) before they can prescribe (propose) so we must understand another person’s point before we can suggest a way forward. This is the art of successful selling and well as getting the best out of others.

1. Synergise

This habit is about valuing and building on differences for ultimate benefit of all. Synergy means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

In a meal we do not eat each food type separately, all of one followed by all of the next. We mix foods up and create new flavours. A successful football team is not made up of players with the same strengths. It comprises people of complementary strengths who support each other.

In both examples, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Something new and unique is created from the interaction of the components. To achieve this, we have to be open to new ideas and new contributions emerging from diverse sources.

1. Sharpen the saw

The last of the seven habits is about taking time to attend to our self. It involves not being so engrossed in day-to-day activities that we lose sight of the need to replenish our personal resources. It is concerned not just with physical resources but also with our whole being. It is about not driving ourselves so hard that our future ability to live is compromised.

In Covey’s terms, this seventh habit is about making the others possible.

Reference:
Covey, S.R. (1989) “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”
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