THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED

Pg 11 Etiology: The study of causation. Teleleology: The study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause.

Pg 13 Adler, in denial of the trauma argument, states the following: No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences, the so-called trauma, but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining

Pg 22 People are not driven by past causes but move toward goals that they themselves set

Pg 68 Superiority complex: The kind of person who likes to boast about his achievements. Someone who clings to his past glory and is always recounting memories of the time when his light shone brightest

Pg 78 The reason so many people dont really feel happy while theyre building up their success in the eyes of society is that they are living in competition. Because to them, the world is a perilous place that is overflowing with enemies

Pg 136 Adler says, children who have not been taught to confront challenges will try to avoid all challenges

Pg 181 Whether we praise of rebuke others, the only diff is one of the carrot or the stick, and the background goal is manipulation

Pg 181 Adlerian psychology refutes all manner of vertical relationships and purposes that all interpersonal relationships be horizontal relationships

Pg 197 If you are building even one vertical relationship with someone, before you even notice what is happening you will be treating all your interpersonal relations as vertical

Pg 224 One self-accepts therefore one can have confidence in others, confidence in others give one camaraderie which one can engage in contribution to others, because one contributes to others one can have awareness that one is useful to others, which leads to self-acceptance

Pg 227 People with neurotic lifestyles tend to sprinkle their speech with such words as "everyone" and "always" and "everything". If you think you might be in the habit of using such generalizing statements, you should be careful

Pg 254 Lifestyle is about here and now, and is something that one can change of ones own volition. The life of the past that looks like a straight line appears that way to you only as a result of your making ceaseless resolutions to not change. The life that lies ahead of you is a completely blank page, and there are no tracks that have been laid for you to follow. There is no story there.

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