I was only having a discussion the other day on how some need a reality check, much in line with what you've said. I've been in a similar situation, and it's really a case of flight or fight, and learning along the way. There's so many willing to blame the world for their problems and not make any progress, whereas others shrug off the shackles and make the best of the situation. We all go through shit, but how we wade through it makes the difference. Peace!