How do you solve the mental abuse if you are trapped in a setup by manipulators?

As a psychologist, I would first want to validate the feelings and experiences you are describing. Being trapped in an emotionally abusive situation with manipulators can be an incredibly difficult and traumatic experience. You are not alone, and the way you are feeling is understandable given the circumstances.

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That said, your safety and wellbeing should be the top priority. Emotional abuse and manipulation are never acceptable. If you are in an actively dangerous situation, I would advise reaching out to domestic violence resources or trusted friends/family members who can help create a safety plan to extract yourself.

In terms of coping with the psychological impacts, educating yourself about the tactics of emotional abuse and manipulation can be empowering. Reading about concepts like gaslighting, love bombing, trauma bonding etc. can validate your experiences and make the manipulative patterns more visible.

Building your self-esteem and sense of self-worth back up is also crucial after being trapped in an abusive dynamic. Reconnecting with your values, accomplishments and positive traits you may have forgotten about can counteract the belittling messages from your abuser(s).

Journaling, seeing a therapist experienced with abuse cases, and joining support groups can all provide much-needed outside perspectives and realities to combat the twisted reality created by manipulators.

Most of all, please know that you did not deserve to be treated that way, and that healing and breaking free from these toxic cycles is possible with time, support and professional guidance. You have inherent self-worth that no one can take away.