RE: Is Love A Choice Or A Feeling?
Hmm, interesting post. Firstly I like how you talk about your relationship, it's clear you guys are very much in love which is nice. I also find the choice or feeling concept interesting, especially as someone who has been with my wife for a long time.
When we met I was 17.5 and my wife was almost 16...We have been inseparable since, 32 years and married for 26. It's not plain-sailing, it's hard work at times, just as it's seamless at others...That's just life. We have obvious feelings for each other, had and have, and of course we make the choice to be together, accept each other for who and what we are and also make the choice to grow and develop together as individuals and a couple. I believe that's important.
So, I'm going to have to say I think love is both choice and feeling. Choices we make around ourselves and as part of a unit and also in respect of our partners. Feelings...Well, if we didn't feel then I think our relationships would be husks based around facts alone...For me that wouldn't work...Passion is a feeling and it's what my wife and I bring to our relationship and our own individual lives. I love how I feel about my relationship myself within it and my wife, that leads me to the choices I make.
I'm not an intellectual type and so this is just my 2 cents worth.
I curated this for curangel.
Thank you! The feeling of attraction must be there originally; I wouldn't call this feeling love though. I mean what about arranged marriages back in the day. Some individuals felt NO attraction to each other. But a select few over the decades and years that past grew a deep respect and eventual love in that relationship. I think love comes with time, and is often confused with the butterfly feeling, that wild feeling that pumps through your veins.
Curious of your thoughts.
The initial feeling is simply attraction and without that then love won't ensue. People stay together for many reasons I guess, obligation, failure of other options, habit...Even love sometimes.
I think people over think it these days...It's pretty simple...If one feels that what they feel is love then it is. It's not for others to define and clarify it...Love is different for all of us.