In many ways the human animal is a follower, a herd creature. Thus, the direction of others can often seem a safe place. Though to be 'told what to do' can surely have negative connotations, there is an innate comfort in the human creature in knowing the jostle of sheep about them are making the decision for them to go right or left, stand still or run, the direction of other's choices can feel free even when one is literally trapped in the herd.
Humans are an interesting lot.
Humans are fascinating. The herd reference is so apt. You have no idea how frequently the topic of herd mentality comes up in my household conversations! It’s epidemic, but like you I understand why most folks live that way. Safety. Comfort. A sense of protection. Ease. Not the life for me though.