@dollarsandsense, I've got a couple recommendations for you. Check out Dedeco Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and Terrinha-Draculino BJJ Team. Not sure exactly where you are but both have multiple locations around the New England area.

Dedeco may be more of a traditional school, and the head instructor is a co-founder of Origin, a company that makes great jiu-jitsu products in the USA. One of the blue belts at my school is an ambassador for them as well and she is an excellent judge of character, so that should say something. T-D may be more of a competition school. Both look like they offer a good mix of self-defense and competition though.

Additionally, there looks like there's a bunch of BJJ/MMA schools out your way. Most offer a week or so trial period at little to no cost, though you'll likely need a gi (usually around $100). Typically schools that teach multiple disciplines of martial arts gravitate toward a more competitive atmosphere. Shop around and see what you like. If you need any advice, reach out to me and I'll offer my completely unprofessional opinion!