It's highly unlikely that a man has ever been told that they should "just be a stay at home dad".

I wasn't told this, but in high school my guidance counselor wanted me to go into psychology or service professions to "make me more well rounded as a human being". For a while I took this advice seriously and they even went as far as to offer college level courses (called Project Advance) to high school students. They offered me "Intro to Psychology". I then later majored in Psychology in college. I actually did quite well and DU named me Hornbeck scholar in 1982. But the profession wasn't right for me (long story). I ended up returning to the field I excelled in which was math and computer science after Dr. Jay Trowill committed suicide (he was my mentor in the honors program at DU). Saturn and Pluto were getting ready to cross my ascendant.

In the 1970's there was a push to get more women into math and the sciences because there was an overwhelming majority of men in that area. Not being fully aware of the political pressure that now had quota's for a certain number of women to be in a certain study, and wanting to have equal numbers for other areas, there was now pressure for men to bow out of science and math. I believe this was the reason why my guidance counselor suggested this because there was no other good reason for me to leave the sciences as I was a straight A student.