JUST BE YOU

In these days there is so much noise in the world, so many sources telling you who you need to be, telling you why you aren't good enough. When all the different sources tell you how to be, and you are unsatisfied with who you are, then you will get carried away with this, or that thing. In this day and age one must truly know ones sells to survive and to be successful in any area of life.

Once you find that part of yourself that doesn't move, that fights back against all odds, then, and only then, can you block all the noise out and focus.

I believe that is why so many people have hit rock bottom before coming successful. Rock bottom is where they found that part of them that said "no I'm fighting back." That is not saying, by any means, that one must hit rock bottom before one can be successful, but rather, that one must find something inside oneself that he/she is not willing to compromise on. I guess a why if you will. Although I'm not to fond of the saying myself because it implies that it can change.

Maybe what I am referring to is character, or strength of character, and what a man or a woman finds in themselves that they cannot, or will not give up on.

For instance, I have wanted to be a certain way all my life, kind, honest, trustworthy, wealthy in relationships, happiness, health, and money and material possessions, so I have spent my whole life looking for the things I wanted, I have read books, listened to programs, watched videos, all because I figured someone had the answer, the key to who I wanted to become, and because I was always looking, looking, looking outwards, because I turned to everyone else for the answers and never once asked the only person who mattered all along, me. For that reason and that reason alone I have remained lost. Now I'm not saying that I have all the answers to life, but instead that I have the answers, and always have had the answers to who I am. I'm not so naive as to think that all I desire is mine already, without me putting forth the effort, but that if I want the things that are outside of me, than I have a better chance of getting them if I first calm and conquer the storm inside.

Now imagine with me, that instead of me going and looking for a person who didn't exist yet, if, I had first allowed myself to accept and be the person I was at that time. If I had said, Chubba my man, yea you aren't everything you want to be at the moment, but bro you are Chubba right now, as you are, and though you aren't exactly how you want to be that's fine, because your character is that which you will never give up until you become that. Imagine, if only after I had excepted myself and allowed me to love myself, if only then I had gone out and searched the books and programs for the answers, then I could have said, does this what I are hearing and being told to do, does it match up with my character and who I want to be? And if the answer was yes, then because I loved myself, I could have just let myself do and then be what I desired.

It didn't go that way for me though, but rather, first, I hated myself because I wasn't what I wanted to be, then I went searching for answers because I hated myself, and when I found the answers I forced myself to do, and become them, or at least I tried force. You can't force yourself to be someone else though, you can't force yourself to change, instead you must allow. I didn't allow and because of that I didn't become, and because I didn't become than I hated myself more for not meeting my own high standards, and then it became a vicious cycle. First hate for who I was, then the answer to who I wanted to be, then force to be that, and when force failed to work than hate again.

So please in this day and age when everything and everyone wants, and tells you you must be a certain way, or think a certain way, or do certain things, please block it all out, even block me out and listen and love yourself, exactly how you are. It is alright, you are alright, even if you don't have, or do, or aren't everything you think you should be right now, it's alright. Tame the storm inside first, and you do that by seeing the storm and letting the storm go. Because the storm isn't you, you are you, love that, and allow that, then you are free to become whoever you want.