Stretch marks who? He Loves You Unconditionally

(I've asked a friend if I can post their article.)

Speaking as a man, stretch marks… does not make a difference. A woman’s stretch marks don’t even register on the scale. In fact, we won’t notice your earrings, minimal hair modifications, outfit, or even if you wear the same thing for several days in a row, especially if we like you. Instead, we’ll be thinking about other (ahem) running through our heads.

See, when men look at women, they look at what they like. But when women look at themselves, they look at what they don’t like. Men sometimes fail to notice little flaws in women that we date until we break up with them. Generally guys are looking for things to like… not things to dislike.

If you’re with someone, and they tell you that you’re hot, pretty, sexy, etc, be happy and accept it. If they thought you were as awful as you think you are, then they obviously wouldn’t be with you, now would they? As a guy, we realize you’re sometimes insecure, but it also gets really tiring fighting the never-ending, “No, babe, when I say you look good, I mean it” battle.

See if we are there and kissing you and touching you.. and your ‘marks. We just don’t care about them. Men see them as natural or marks of being a woman. Women notice them 1000 more times then us men ever will.

Okay, fine, we’ll probably see them and think, “Oh, stretch marks.” But then never notice them again. Honestly, that isn’t the basis of a woman’s beauty. You could have an unsightly scar running across your face, and if we have fun being around you we wouldn’t care.

If a man cares about stretch marks he is pretty much worthless.

The point is – most men aren’t stupid. We know the ‘perfect woman’ image we’re fed every day basically doesn’t exist. You are being insecure but through no fault of your own, I’m sure. Every woman you see on a billboard or an advert is airbrushed, photoshopped, warped. That image is a lie. Sure, we like nice skin. We like healthy looking women. We like sexy clothes. But that doesn’t mean we dislike anybody who doesn’t conform to that.

What I’m trying to say is physical imperfections are the norm, not the exception. Everybody (or at least, 99.99999% of people) has some minor flaw, be it stretch marks or cellulite or acne scarring or a combination. That doesn’t mean you’re ugly. It means you’re a normal looking human being. When your boyfriend tells you he doesn’t care (hell, maybe the stretch marks are an extra turn on for him!), just believe him.

I may not be able to speak for every guy out there, but I’m pretty sure I can speak for a large percentage: beauty is more than skin deep. So stop spending so much time worrying about it.