AFTER having a baby

If you are a parent, you know that having a baby is probably the best thing that's happened to your life (planned or unplanned). You love them with every ounce of your body..literally.

But what they don't tell you is what happens AFTER having the baby. Some people go through post partum depression. Some people takes years to get their body back to what it looked like before (never will it be the same). Some people can't get intimate with their spouse because of the lack of confidence afterwards. Some people get major stretch marks that they can't get rid of for the rest of their life.

Most women will wonder if their goodies will bounce back to what it was.

But I'm telling you..it will. And everything will be okay. You have stretch marks, but it gave you a baby. You will gain massive amount of weight and you will lose it. You might go through depression but you will overcome it. You have to overcome it for your child. They will make you laugh..cry and even doubt yourself. But at the end of the day, when you are laying in bed and staring at them sleep..it is all worth it. You made a tiny human being. Mother's make mistakes..they learn. It's the only time in life where you literally learn as you go. No amount of schooling will teach you to do it right.

It wasn't morning sickness that was hard. It wasn't the contractions that made me scared or cry. It wasn't the labour that made me doubt myself as a parent. It was the frustration after giving birth. Not knowing what they wanted when they cried. Not knowing if I should rush them into the hospital when they are sick. Not knowing if I am being the best mom for him. Trying to clean and do laundry while they nap and praying they will nap for atleast an hour. Wondering when can they eat certain foods...trying NOT to call the doctor for everything! Trying to stay calm when they vomit all over both of us for the 9th time that day. Or always worried they aren't eating enough.
But every day that goes by..i learn more and more about him. The only way to get through the day is to tell yourself that YOU are doing the best you can. Take a break and go out for a walk. Have a bath with Epsom salt. You need to have some alone time to recollect yourself because you know once you open the bathroom door..it starts all over again and i would never ever trade it for anything else.

In 1 week...he will be 1!! And I know I AM the best mother I can be.