Thank you @ecoinstant! I have a French version and a Spanish version. Mothers in those countries are mostly "castrator" ones . "Castration" is a psychoanalyst theory. Typical from narcissistic parents where children are no more than flowers vases. In a narcissistic family, children are not human beings, they are "things" that belong to their parents, like the car or the dog. In this situation, children don't develop the necessary capabilities of the self. They constantly refer to their parents to take decisions in life, because, they were not given the opportunity to decide by themselves. "Shut up and do what I tell you to do". This sentences is well known from adults being suffered a narcissistic parent. Nevertheless, this phenomenon is more popular in Catholic countries than in Protestant countries. For a narcissistic father, his son is a "genius", as long as he does what the father wants him to do. This behavior produces high quality idiots.

The healing begins when the adult child realizes that he is an idiot and assumes that his place in the world is not what his father had promised.

For more references, psychotherapist Alice Miller has written a very interesting book "The Drama of the Gifted child".