Making Up After a Spat | How to Comfort Your Pup Post-Argument
As any dog owner knows, our canine companions are normally happy-go-lucky, constantly seeking our affection. But after a spat, they can become more reserved.
Millie, my energetic Labrador, is usually the first in our home to greet guests at the door. However, the day after Mike and I raised our voices while scolding her for jumping on the kitchen counters, she hid under the dining table. It broke my heart to see her usual wiggly enthusiasm replaced with wary uncertainty. She seemed confused by our upset tones and wasn't sure what we expected from her in that moment.
During these times, it's important to keep interactions with your dog positive and reassuring. Kneel down to their level, speak in a calm, soft voice, and let them come to you if they're comfortable. Forceful commands or rapid movements could cause further stress. Gentle pets and verbal praise, without correction, go a long way in helping them regain confidence. I gave Millie space but also let her know I wasn't still cross by lightly scratching her favorite spot behind the ears when she peeked out. Within an hour, she was back to her bouncy self, recognizing the dispute was behind us.
Regaining trust may take more time for pups who tend towards nerves or anxiety. Be patient and understanding as they learn there are no lingering hard feelings. In addition to your typical calming techniques, keep interactions low-key for a few days.
Part of the challenge is that dogs operate primarily in the present moment. So while we dwell on the past disagreement, analyzing where it went wrong, for dogs what matters most is how they're being made to feel right now. Actions speak louder than words to their sensitive nature. Make an effort to greet your pooch with patience and affection each time you see them after an altercation, however brief, and it will relieve stress on both sides to move forward positively.
Of course, not all dogs will show the same responses depending on temperament. But with understanding and time to decompress, expect most pups to regain their cheerful spirits. Though quarrels are inevitable in any household, remembering it's never personal for our dogs and prioritizing reconciliation makes living together go much more smoothly. With compassion, even the most headstrong hound can learn to shake off arguments and get right back to loving as usual.