"...if my wife suggests...[I]obey her orders."

I submit you are conflating different things.

And, government always seems retarded, because it is always being abused for the benefit of the corrupt officials that worm their way into power.

While disobedience isn't something that should always be undertaken, at least not for children, who require loving guidance that includes commands, such as "Do not leap into that blazing fire!", it is always a virtue for free adults.

Don't tell me what to do.

Anyone that gives you orders reduces you to chattel. If you obey them, that is.