Day 73:) Is there an alternative?
We generally think in dichotomous either/or. Either you are correct else me. Does such a situation occur where we disagree; however, both are right. Think of such a situation, might have happened with you in the past.
We grow more by spending time with the person with whom we have conflicts. It gives us an opportunity to perceive things from a different lens, increasing our vision. Though, in conflicts, we are more inclined towards proving oneself the supreme. How can I be wrong? Rather than choosing a win-win approach. That’s why we run away from such people and mark a full stop on our growth.
The above image has been viral on WhatsApp wonder box. Some see grey, while other perceive pink. Ironically, people don’t debate and simply agree both can coexist. We are valuing the differences here. The level of communication deepens, and the other person will be more open in sharing the opinions. On the other hand, if it was not revealed beforehand that the color can coexist, there would have been a battle of thoughts, which later fill us with anger and hatred for other people. May be even for our peer ones.
Mostly we assume, there can’t be any alternate way and closed the doors for our mind to even think. That’s because we concentrate only on winning. We don’t focus on win-win, where both the parties will be significantly benefited.
Would like to be in a position of losing or winning?
There is no doubt in that we always thrive to win. However, the real question is, “Will the losing person do any future interaction with you?” Probably, the person will be always looking for a way to beat you through any other means. You would be mostly considered as enemy instead of a friend. However in a win-win scenario we perceive other persons as our well-wishers and buddy, since they are making us win too.
There is almost always a third path, if you look for it genuinely. The next time when you are in such a dilemma. Take a pause, seek to understand and look for a synergistic third alternative.