RE: B.A.L.S. - Should You Tell A Woman She's Fat?
Pussyfoot around... another expression added to the list xD
Well, if people I care about are gaining weight i tell them because i've been on the other end and even though it hurts a little it makes one know that they are gaining weight, sometimes we don't even realize it ourselves...
I also ask them if everything is ok... cortisol the stress hormone tends to make some people increase weight, also lack of sleep does it too, etc...etc... so, if they are gaining weight maybe they are going through a stressful time in their life and i can give some support... I always gain weight when college exams come around, i hate it, i get stressed as fuck and gain 10kg in 1 month sometimes! To you americans that is 22lbs in 1 month... and this is when i try to control myself from stress eating, you don't want to see me stress eating without self control, i start getting my own gravitational pull!
That sounds logical, but unfortunately, women aren't terribly logical and likely won't respond to criticism about their weight in a positive way. Men may not know when they have put on a few pounds, but I can assure you that most women do. I take meds for my MS that cause me to retain water weight and I stress every day about how I look. I am doing everything within my power to maintain a normal weight, but sometimes it doesn't even matter.
The last thing I need is someone telling me I look like I have gained weight.
Haha I think that's why women react the way they do, because it's something they already know and as I said before, are likely working to fix.
Just thought I would throw out a different perspective!
This is yet another reason why I would only say it to a girlfriend, you never know why people gain more weight.