RE: I wrote this note below to a friend, who made a strong decision to pick her life up...
Its a nice way of saying she was an addict, severe drug problems. The first step to getting help is "detox". You spend about 10 or so days in a special place without drugs. After that, if you are lucky enough to have funding or help from government you can get into a treatment center, where you can live and sleep for 1 to 3 months and have counseling and food etc. to heal and get away from addiction. You can't just go to treatment because detoxing from hard drugs requires medical attention because it can be dangerous. So there is a process and phases.
It's a very difficult choice for people, that have fallen, because it means they have to face all of the destruction and guilt they have brought into their own and other's lives.
Doing the drug gives the brain a feeling of "bliss", yet somehow deep down an addict sometimes realizes that this bliss is only synthetic.
But unfortunately most people don't understand and are not sympathetic to how difficult it is to change in this regard. It's embarrassing, even though it shouldn't be.
Thanks for asking. I hope that helps you understand.
Oh dear... must be hard for her. Sorry to hear that. Hope she gets help and she must have strong will to turn over a new leaf.
Thank you!
One of my brothers is in such a situation and he keeps being tempted to use such substance. We tried again and again to keep him away from such things and friends who may also be using. Now the Dr says he fell into a psychosis may not be able to lead a normal life unless he completely avoids using drugs and take medcine properly. i give him all the support he needs to get rid of this addiction but I must say at some point of life even the most sympathetic person regardless of your relations could get fed up with such people and may want to stop caring ..... but am trying my best for my brother I love him soo much :'(
Yes its tough. Please keep checking my articles because I will have more that relate to this. Always remember to keep science in mind in this regard. Your brother, our loved ones, have had changes in their brains that make it difficult for them to function in society. I like to think of it, and speak of it, as a broken computer. We shouldn't ask a broken computer to fix itself, and function normally. Often we get upset with the choices our loved ones make, but we don't understand what it is like to have these changes in our brains.
And be careful with your language. It's obvious to me, even with your writing, that you will never stop CARING. It's just that at some point you and your family might have to stop putting energy into your brother, which is fair. You can't waste your own life trying to help another, because that isn't really help at all, and you won't have anything to help them with when they DO seek change. Sometimes you HAVE to un-attach, which is hard, but its true.
But you will ALWAYS care :)
In regard to drugs and especially for example heroine, and science, there are some things that our system and society doesn't subscribe to that can help. Kratom I will write about soon and it is saving my friend. Marijuana I am also a strong believer in. But these things must be used properly and with treatment.
The only advice I might give, is to talk to your brother about EVERYTHING. There might be things he doesn't want to tell you, and that you don't want to hear. But over time he will open up and its important for both of you and important for him. Addicts start to hide the truth and its a very helpful thing for them to feel loved and comfortable enough to open up.
This alone can cause him to seek internal change.
Take care, and hug your family. It's tough, I know.
And thank you for sharing.
You are absolutely right lack of knowledge in this regard makes situation worse.. looking forward to your new articles.. it was a great read.... And thank you so much for your great insight
Peace :)