How to never stress again By Abraham Twerski

 "There’s something I want to tell you about the stress and how we have to look at stress. Ok, and I think it’s important thing because many people have told me from my lectures it’s the one thing they remember. Ok.  I was sitting at a dentist office, looked at an article and it said, how do lobsters grow? Well, I don’t care, how lobsters grow.  But I was interested in it, and it points out that a lobster is a soft mushy animal that lives inside of a rigid shell. That rigid shell does not expand. Well, how can the lobster grow?  Well, as the lobster grows that shell becomes very confining and kind of the lobster feels itself under pressure and uncomfortable.  It goes under a rock formation to protect itself from predatory fish, casts off the shell and produces a new one.  Well eventually that shell becomes very uncomfortable as it grows… back under the rocks – good.  I think the lobster repeats this numerous times, the stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable, ok, now if lobsters had doctors, they would never grow because as soon as the lobster feels uncomfortable it goes to the doctor, gets a Valium, gets a Percocet, feels fine. Never casts off his shell. So, I think, what we have to realize – we have to realize is that times of stress are also times that are signals for growth. And if we use adversity properly, we can grow through adversity."