How do you like to be referred to... the form at the Doctor's office.
I just got back from an annual medical check up.
Of course though not much has changed they still expect you to fill out some forms.
At the top of the form it asked to circle how you like to be addressed:
she/hers/her, he/his/him, they/their/them, zi/zir/etc, or Other Please Share.
I circled them all and told them whatever they want. They could call me idiot. So what. Part of maturing and learning to deal with the reality that we all are different is to learn how to deal with being offended.
People can be offended by literally anything. Reality is offensive at times.
We need to learn to deal with it. It's called life. I do have one simple change I think people could mentally make that would make it much easier for them.
Here it is...
Assume the best, rather than assuming the worst.
To clarify. You are offended with pronouns because you assume the person was attempting to insult you. You are assuming the worst. If instead you assume the best that they meant no offense then it is pretty simple to go on with your life without making a big deal over things that truly should be trivial non-issues.
If you assume the best, yet even the best still leaves insult as the option then there is a good chance they were trying to insult you. I assure you the vast majority of the cases this is not the case.
This is yet another tool that intentionally is designed to divide us.
Another is seeking micro-aggressions which is the epitome of assuming the worst.
If all you can do is look for things to be offended by you will surely find them. Yet all you'll do is make yourself and those you interact with miserable.
This is great advice, advice
anyone can benefit from!
That's a really good message and i agree with with you. Assume that people have the best intentions and that they are not trying to be an asshole. I especially like it when you read comments on social media and people are seriously offended by other people being offended. Or people telling other people to mind their own business on social media. The irony is too much sometimes. If you circling all of the options is a true story at the doctors then that is hilarious. I'd like to hear what they had to say privately when they got the form back. "It appears that this person gives no shits" hahaha.
I spoke with a couple of them about it. The young female (she didn't tell me how she identifies) may not have been amused. The person that drew my blood thought it was great. She told me that she moved here recently with her husband from Oklahoma and she took a photo of that form to show her husband. She told them she wasn't going to do that and they took her and had a meeting in an office about it. I told her I also considered in the future making up a different one for each visit under the OTHER section where they ask you to share. :)
Hmm I wonder what they said to her in the meeting? That might be funny to make up a new one each time. Lol
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out of respect I will call people what they want to be called.
but yeah, getting upset that someone makes a wrong assumption is just dumb.
Sure IF you know what to call them, though there is also years and years of habit so you still may fail to use some term you are unfamiliar with without any intentions to offend.
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