Receive Or Refuse
In life, there are things that may happen - some within your control and the others beyond your control. However, there is one thing that you have control of - which is the power of your choice. I have come to realise that in most cases, it is not what comes to you or the situation that you find yourself in, nor what happens, that ultimately matters, but how you have either received or reacted against it. You may not have control of the happenings in life itself, but you have a choice of how to respond to them. For every situation that comes to you, you have a choice on whether to welcome it or not. After all, life is basically a product of one's choices.
Receiving a situation means that you have put yourself to accept the reality and then make the best out of it. You have to understand that there are some situations that, no matter how much you wish or try, you cannot change it, so you only need to accept it and make the most of it. For example, as a little kid, you may have wished to be a professional basketball player when you grow up. But when you grow up and discover that your height is not up to par, then there is no point trying to beat yourself over it, because you cannot change your height. You only need to accept it. You can still be an athlete - maybe a footballer.
It takes a considerable amount of maturity and wisdom to be able to welcome and receive what you cannot change. Instead of focusing your attention on changing what is beyond you or what cannot be changed, it will be better to learn to accept it, so that it will not weaken you. Then you can focus more on what you have control of. Being receptive of your situation does not mean being docile, but accepting what you cannot change. The first step towards this is to receive your own self. True transformation comes with acceptance. A lot of the successful people that you see today did not have a perfect condition or even a fair start, but they accepted it and welcomed the challenge, while turning it into a launch-pad for success.
It is true that there are things you need to receive, but on the other hand, you also need to understand that there are sometimes that refusing a situation might be a better option. You should not accept everything, otherwise you may not grow and develop. Some situations require your immediate refusal and rejection, in order to protect your sanity, peace, self worth, and even your future. It is worthy to note that there are things that you need to refuse in order for your life to be better. Take this example; if you are in a toxic relationship, there is no need trying to accommodate the person and hoping for things to get better. The only good option is to refuse the relationship for the sake of your life and your sanity.
As you experience life, you will understand that one of the happiest moments comes when you have made the choice to let go of the things that you know you cannot change. Do not accept the things that will put you into harm or will create negative impact for you or will be detrimental to you both at the present and in the long run. What good will it do you if you accept what does not align with your purpose and end up experiencing negativity? There are times that what you need to refuse a negative situation is to set boundaries and be firm about it, without bending it for anyone.
You also need an ability to say "no." If you cannot say no or refuse a negative situation, you may end up harming yourself - emotionally, physically, psychologically, or otherwise. Even when it comes to many other aspects of life, like making friends, entering a relationship, choosing location, working, etc, you have to know that not everything goes. Always have in mind that you have a choice to make and you need to make it wisely. Remember that the choices you make today may not only impact on your present, but may also have effects on your future.
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