Would go as far as to say: To Love someone, regardless of in which context, is always a decision we make. Loving someone romantically, for example, who is not available, can break our heart. I know. I have been there. It took me a loooong time to recognize that Love is not a feeling per se, or ought not to be, as emotions, e-motions move, change. Then, we left ve somone less, because our emotions shifted toward chocolate buttons.

No, it is a decision. And we are responsible for making it.
Jesus says, love thy God with all thine heart and sould. Love they neighbor as you love yourself. Not necessarily what they do.

That paintball thing:survival instinct coupled with competiteveness. Bring it on gal! 😎