Differentiating Between Friend And Fiend

Some people that you are friendly with may not have good intentions towards you. In fact, some may be fiends, disguising as friends. The hearts of people are desperately cruel, that one needs to be cautious about who they brings closer to their life. This is why, when you meet a good friend, you need to cherish and value them, because they are not too easy to come by these days that a lot of people are only concerned about their own desires. Here, we shall take a look at how to know who is a true friend, so that you can value and cherish them.

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The first quality that shows who your true friend is, is someone who would support you through "thick and thin." They are not supporting you because of what to gain later from you, but because they sincerely care about you. A real and true friend will stand by you, not only in the good times, but also when it looks like things are rough and challenging. As a matter of fact, someone who will only come around when things are good, but will be nowhere to be found when things go south, is not your real friend and you should beware of them. This only means that they only come around for what they will get from you and not what they can offer to you; so keep your eyes open.

Another way to know who a true friend is, is honesty. Your friend will tell you the truth at all times, not just telling you what you want to hear. It is true that there are times when certain truths may be hard to be told and the easiest way might just be to introduce a lie. But a true friend will always tell you the truth irrespective of the situation. Of course, it is far better to hit someone with the truth, which will ultimately make them to be better and to grow, than to try to comfort them with a lie that will only provide temporary pleasure but with permanent scar. Someone who is genuine about your growth and who wants you to become a better version of yourself will always tell you the truth.

Your friend will also respect you and respect your boundaries. If you have someone who constantly crosses the limits and always vexes you without considering your emotions and feelings, then you should know that they are not your friend. Everyone has a personal space, boundaries, limits, opinions, and decisions, and your friend should respect that. It is true that your friend can advise you about your decisions or opinion and can also give their own ideas, but they will not manipulate you to go with their own opinion. In addition, their respect is not only when you are around but even in your back, they should be able to respect you. Respect is part of the building blocks of any good relationship.

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Another very important way to tell a good friend from a fiend, is that your true friend will celebrate your successes without feeling jealous or intimidated by your wins. In fact, anyone who shows reservations when good things start to happen to you, or wish it had been them instead, is not your friend. This means that if they can stop it from happening, they would have stopped it, so beware of them. After all, you are not competing with them over who will have the most wins, and if they start to be in competition with you, then you should check it.

The final point is to see the level of effort they make to stay connected to you. Friendship is supposed to be a two-way thing, but if you are the only person making the effort to sustain the friendship, then something is not right. Truly, people can get busy with life, work, family, etc, but at least, your friend should make out time to check up on you. But remember, you also have to do the same for them. To get a good friend, you have to first start by being a good and sincere friend. Then you have to make conscious efforts to build the friendship. Always have in mind that the friendship you build today may be what will be needed to build you up tomorrow.

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