In Reflection

in reflection, is love really blind or we are the ones who tend to shut out our reasoning towards it? Oooh! We got caught up in the emotions and feelings that we left reasons behind. Well there is more to it and if you like to know, just stick around till the end.

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Why do you think many men don't like it when their partners don't have their own jobs?

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This can be a bit tricky to say exactly why some men feel this way having in mind that everyone is different because I have seen men happy to have a stay at home wife, in fact, in this part of the world, it is more traditional that the woman is the home builder, if not for modernization and equality, but then I can try to explain some of the common reasons behind this school of thought, and this may include;

Financial Pressure:
Men often feel a lot of pressure to be the main provider for their entire family, both immediate and extended families, sometimes even to the wife's extended family, therefore if their partner does not work, it can feel like they are carrying the entire financial burden on their shoulders, which can be stressful and lead to resentment.

Therefore having the two of them working, leads to having two sources of income, which can now provide greater financial security for the whole family.

Sense of Equality and Independence:
There are some men who might feel like their partner is not contributing equally to the relationship, both financially and in terms of responsibility, which might bring up the feeling of them carrying a heavier burden, whereas some may want their partners to have their own financial independence and sense of purpose outside of the relationship and not having a job can make a woman feel dependent solely on her partner, which some men find unattractive.

Personal Value and Respect:
There are some men who might feel like their partners don't respect them or their efforts enough if they are not contributing financially, which can bring up the feeling that they are being taken advantage of. Whereas some just value independence and self-sufficiency in their partners, so they might feel a partner who doesn't have a work is not fulfilling their potential

With this, it is important for us to have in mind that these are just some possible reasons, and not all men get to feel this way.

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Is helping an act of kindness that we should know who to give to and why?

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Helping is definitely an act of kindness, but it's not always about knowing who to give to or why they need the help, it is more about recognizing the need of people and offering our support. Think of it like this:

Just like we see someone struggling to carry a heavy box. Do we need to know who they are and why? Exactly, we don't need to know their life story or why they are carrying the box to offer a helping hand. We just see they need help, and then lend our help by choosing to be kind.

Don't get me wrong because there are times when knowing who and why can help us make better choices. For example, if we want to donate to a charity, getting to know the purpose and aim behind the organization will definitely help us to ensure that our money is going to be put into a good cause.

But in our everyday life, helping is often about being present, being observant, and being willing to lend a hand when we see someone in need, because it is about creating a culture of kindness and support, regardless of the reason behind the need.

Therefore while knowing the who and why can be helpful to us in some situations, it shouldn't be a barrier for us to help.

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Is it necessary to give up what you like most to please others?

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No!. it is definitely not necessary to give up what we like the most to please others. We can do that in situations where we deem it as a greater good, but not make it a necessity, but rather out of will.

Just imagine we went outing and you have a favorite pizza topping, maybe pepperoni. Would you give up the pepperoni toppings just because I do not like it? I am sure it will probably be easier for you just to order a different pizza for me. This is the same with our passions and interests. We shouldn't have to sacrifice what we love just to make others happy, because it is very much okay to have different tastes and preferences.

Remember, we all deserve to be happy and fulfilled and pursuing our passions is a part of that. Therefore, we should not be afraid to be ourselves and enjoy the things that make us happy too.

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Do you think that in matters of love we should involve reason?

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It is no surprise that love is indeed a powerful emotion which makes it often hard to think straight when we are caught up in it. But in all, reason still has a place in matters of love.

Love is just like building a house, and if we are building a house, would we just start throwing bricks together without a plan? Exactly, we would need blueprints, measurements, and a solid foundation. That is how in matters of love we need to think about things like:

Compatibility:
This is all about you asking yourself certain questions like are your values, goals, genotype, blood groups and interests aligned?

Communication:
Can you talk openly and honestly with each other?

Respect:
Do you treat each other with kindness and consideration?

We all need to sit down and reason all these and more as this will help us see the bigger picture and make sure our relationships are built on a strong foundation. But then, as much as reasons are good, it doesn't necessarily mean that we should analyze every little detail.

In the matters of love, we should let reason be our compass, guiding us through the emotional landscape of love, to help us make sure we are headed in the right direction and avoid getting lost in the fog of feelings. Remember, love is not just about feelings alone but also about passion and excitement, besides having a healthy relationship needs a good balance of both heart and mind.

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NOTE: Always have a smile on your face, as you are never fully dressed without one.