RE: Kenapa Kita Memilih Menderita?
You are welcome @wakeupkitty, what I wrote is that thousands of people experience in life, but most of them only want to make happiness for themselves. Here is the most basic question when someone confesses or tells us "I LOVE YOU".. I asked them back, are you trying to make yourselves happy or to make me happy??, because most of the "LOVE" is only to make oneself happy not to the one they confess love to.
Many of us confess "the LOVE" to someone to fulfill their desire to "Taste" what kind of experience they could have?, it could be sexuality, comfort, not being alone, or having a partner or friend to talk to, and many more self-desire. But not a single reason to make the one they love to be truly happy. Again, many of us think the happiness of someone else is based on what exists in their mind, without asking and understanding what true happiness is.
To me, when I say "I love You" it has a huge responsibility to be the one who can make her happy in whatever way she chooses to step on, and it is hard enough. That is what I said;
Cinta pada dasarnya adalah bentuk penderitaan yang saya pilih dengan sukarela
I know you understand this very well Kitty
Love comes in many ways and it is hard to define what it is. It is personal, hormonal, chemical, itcan grow or fade away because of something like a habit (once liked) or a smell.
Should it last forever? My father said to his mother: your marriage was easy he was rarely home and died at a young age.
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It has a deep meaning, One said to me long ago, that marriage is like a time bomb on our own body, and I said, If you can defuse the bomb, then there's no harm for you, you just need to carry a little extra weight.
It's hard to tell how to make it worthy (perfe t doesn't exist) but love doesn't come easy just like trust and loyalty.
If we want we can make eveeything work out by avoiding or slowly dying underneath the extra weight. I know I couldn't since I have to face me and live with me ar the first place.
You are born alone and will die alone, no one can do this process for you.