Overcoming Embarrassing Situations
Sometimes we become embarrassed of something we did. Other times, it is because of someone who did put us in a certain situation that made us embarrassed. In all scenarios, being embarrassed could have a bad effect on our behavior. It could limit us from expressing ourselves.
I know that I am not speaking for everyone here. There are some people who do not feel embarrassed at all. Here is the question though. What can we do to overcome this? If someone puts us in a situation or says something that makes us feel uncomfortable. How should we react?
A lot of times, our mind is trying to maintain that image of ourselves in front of others.
I remember one day reading an article about this. The article has a weird solution to this. Which is, that some people tend to say something that they know that would make them uncomfortable on purpose. This often leads their mind to get used to criticism of others. Plus, it shows others sometimes that they do not care as much about their opinion. It "slightly" shows a sign of confidence.
In my opinion, I think it is really important that each individual have a solid self image of themselves. It is important that person is not worried about criticism. It is sometimes true and beneficial for self reflection and self improvement. But, it should not be something that defines one being. For instance, if someone was criticizing a behavior of other person. The other person should not have those words stuck in his mind and defines himself by words of others.
Have you tried this before? Let me know your experience with it. If you have other ways, you may also share them so, you can benefit others as well.
What you can say or do depends on what happens and the person who makes you feel embarrassed. The only time I felt embarrassed was as I was a child (about 7 or 8 years at most) and a schoolmate invited asked what my mother was doing as she kept pulling the curtains while repeating the same words but that was the last time (and trust me she did way worse).
The other less pleasant surprise was the time as my ex had his birthday with his twin brother. It was his turn to organize it and he did at our home. As the guests left he told each one of them to pay him 25 bucks for the costs... It was what my sister-in-law told me (they never charged the guests also not my ex, who does something like that).
How to respond? I told the schoolmate I had no idea what my mother did and we both stared at her till she left.
In the case of my ex it made me angry but I heard it one or two days later (this behaviour was one of the reasons to divorce).
Do I ever feel embarrassed? I am not sure, I don't think so. Perhaps you can give me some examples of what is embarrassing? Toiletpaper stuck in your underwear, open zipper or food between your teeth? Showing up at the wrong party? I just shrug my shoulders, because these are things that can happen to everyone and next time I pay more attention. There are also things I simply don't care about (anylonger) and if I don't care most people don't and it's not interesting to make a fool about you.
If you feel embarrassed it has more to do with your feelings than what others say or think or how they act. Self-esteem is all you need and if you really have it no one cares what you are doing, look like and no will try to make you look like an idiot. I don't believe I changed once I grew up I already had a strong will and opinion at a young age. It most likely saved me from the the childhood I survived.
It's so nice to see such a long comment. Probably, your comment is more interesting than the post. XD. At least, that's what I think.
Let's start with, I had no idea that you're a girl. Of course, your nickname was a hint. But, I wasn't sure until now.
I noticed that you are more attentive to details than I am. But, I thought that you're just detail oriented person.
Anyway...
I agree with you about the fact that, embarrassment has more to do with you than the other person. A good example is when, you say something by accident in front of a crowd. Or, when you say something that should be funny. But, everyone is giving you their best poker face.
I hope that I'm replying to the question that you had in mind when you wrote the comment and not just giving you similar examples. Because, I think you are right. Or, it's just that we're both wrong and agreeing with each other. Lol.
Well, that's the only word I'd change to "self confidence".
I think, this is my longest comment ever!!!
I am not the type to agree if I don't agree and if that's the case I will say it. What's the point in leaving a comment just to say " I agree"? It adds nothing to your post and thoughts, experiences can not be discussed and there's no news or anything to learn. I like to see, hear something new. I don't kike people who always agree with me.
How can we both be wrong? 🤣 No way!
Congrats with your first long comment. It feels good right?
Btw the best comments you receive if you piss people off or talk about taboos or what keeps them busy.
I know that by now. LOL
You're right about 2 words comments. It doesn't add any value and doesn't build a connection or make a communication. It's just saying that I'm here.
I don't know. It remains a possibility. LOL
My first long comment felt really good. The only thing with that is, the moment that I clicked on "post".. It felt like I'm taking a lot of your time to just go through what I was saying over there.
I think that is used as a tactic to get engagement. Posting something that will get a lot of heat.
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