So true! I think I just had to go through my relationships so I could learn that I really only needed what I already had: myself (and the kids). I've become stronger and I don't regret a thing. And to be honest, I think I've always been too independent and stubborn to 'share' the kids with anyone or make decisions with someone not on the same level as I am. I know deep in my heart that even though I'm not perfect, I know what's best for my kids, and having to struggle and argue to get to where I think they should be, is just too much hassle. In all relationships (with the donors, LOL) I had to either argue about things like unassisted birth, no vax etc. or they really didn't give a damn. Either way was wrong. If the other is not on the same line of thoughts, it will never work. In that case, I'd rather be alone and have good friends.