Amir khan 'Bollywood Actor'
I had this habit of carrying chits in colleges.
Well, before we get going, I have a confession
to make.
I became an actor because I had a problem.
I was an introvert.
You know, I'm the youngest in my family.
And I was so pampered in my house that when
I used to step out, I didn't know how to deal
with people.
So, I gradually became this very shy, introverted
kid who could not talk.
Well, I still cannot talk.
And I have stage fright.
So, in case, so what I do generally as an
actor is I hide behind all these fascinating
characters, and then I'm confident.
But, like right now as I'm not acting, so…
I will screw it up.
So, excuse me if I falter.
Excuse me if I don't make sense.
Excuse me if I get a panic attack right now.
But I will try my best.
We love you anyway.
Alright.
I would love to share my journey with you,
my learnings, and in case you decide to drop
out and join me in Bollywood, it will come
very handy.
So, I was thinking in the car, what do I talk
about?
What can I tell you that you already don't
know?
I'm assuming, and I think most probably, you
guys are way much smarter and better than
what I was when I was your age.
You know, you already know about the cut-throat
competition, you know the importance of hard
work, perseverance, and vision, focus, self-belief,
etc., etc.
So, I don't need to talk about that.
But after deep thinking, I zeroed down into
two things that I can actually discuss about.
These two things talk about chasing your dreams
and actually living your dreams, which unfortunately
nobody mentioned to me when I was starting
out.
And those two things are, can I write them,
can you see enough words?
Alright, so yeah, so those two things are
the biggest lie and the only truth about success
that I was told about.
Now the biggest lie was money plus recognition
is equal to happiness, is equal to success.
So, let me begin by mentioning that I come
from a very middle-class family.
And when I was growing up, money was a big,
big, big differentiator in my life.
Also, in the three generations of my family
that I know of, that are documented, nobody
knew what fame felt like.
So, basically, both money and recognition
were missing when I started out.
So, I already started out as a failure, let
me be very precise.
My family told me that I had to become an
engineer, medicals were booked for my sisters.
So, once I'm an engineer, then I can, you
know, try civil services examination and then
probably, yeah, that would be like opening
the doors for all kinds of happiness and I'll
be forever successful, I'll be forever happy.
This is the condition that I experienced when
I was growing up.
Alright, fair enough, good deal.
So, I became very good in studies, did fairly
well in my 10th board exams, and then off
I went to Delhi for my +2, got myself enrolled
in a nice school and Vidya Mandir and FIIT
JEE and half a dozen of another coaching institutes.
And I used to share my room with three other
similar aspirants.
What it meant was every day after finishing
my assignments, school assignments, and preparing
for my engineering entrance exam, I had to
wash my clothes and I had to cook food for
myself.
But I wasn't complaining.
Well, it was worth it because after all, I
was for the very first time in my life, I
was so close to become successful, for the
first time in my life.
So yeah, finally I slopped, I got selected
for several engineering colleges and I decided
to take admission in Delhi College of Engineering,
which is...
DC.
Now known as DTU, thank you.
Were you my senior or junior?
So, yeah, so there was a celebration like
this in my family too.
I could finally stop for a while and breathe,
you know.
I was telling myself that, you know what,
now you have made it.
You should be happy because you're supposed
to be happy, but it wasn't working that much.
Something was missing, there was a void that
I could feel.
So, I thought maybe something bigger was required.
For some reason, incessantly while the first
18, 19 years of my life, the future me was
much happier, much successful than the present
me.
So, I was like, alright fine, so I was forcing
myself.
As I promised, I started preparing for civil
services examination and I was forcing myself
to slog, but I was bored.
UPSC exams were still far away.
In the meantime, I thought of doing theatre
and I thought to learn dance because to counter
the shyness that I had, still have, and also
because there were no girls in my engineering
college for some reason.
I felt cheated man, we slogged so much, you
cracked your entrance exam, and you find that
there are no girls.
So yeah.
So, somebody told me that there are very good-looking
girls in dance schools.
So, I was like, fine, I enrolled.
And once I started with performing arts, I
knew one thing for sure, I knew that I quite
liked it.
And three years later, imagine me sitting
in the campus and I'm thinking, alright, I'm
really interested in performing arts.
And all I want to do is to earn money and
to be recognized.
So, if I become a movie star, hmm, I actually
was very serious.
And I dropped out of my College in the third
year, when I was just two semesters away from
getting the degree, engineering degree.
Came to Mumbai, got heavily into theatre and
also the skills that I thought were necessary
to become an actor.
And by the way, this time I stayed with six
other guys in a single room kitchen.
But this time I was prepared for it.
This time, there was one difference, I was
driven.
My self-respect was at stake.
My ex-college mates, one of them is sitting
right here in the black shirt.
They thought that I was that disaster that
folks in engineering and B schools should
never become.
So, I had to prove a point to everybody.
I had to prove a point to my family.
Most importantly, I had to prove a point to
myself.
And this was the time when I was also a background
dancer.
So, I was dancing behind all the possible
stars that you can think of, Shahrukh Khan,
Shaheed Kapoor, everybody.
And I was thinking, I was thinking to myself
while I was performing, okay, it's just three
steps away, there I have to get, and everything
will be sorted.
And I kept going like that.
And two years later, guess what, I got myself
my first big break.
I was selected for a prime time show on TV.
Now hear me out.
It was seriously a big break because I started
earning, people started recognizing me.
To be honest, I would deliberately go and
roam in all these malls so that people could
look at me, smile, ask for my photograph.
And I was watching myself on TV for the first
time.
You have no idea how it feels for somebody
like me to, you know, just looking at me for,
and I was looking at myself every day on TV.
It was a big, big, big high.
I also suddenly discovered that I actually
had many friends, who were absent all this
while, but suddenly they popped up.
And the show became popular.
I was making good money to a point that money
stopped being a differentiator in my life.
And I was becoming more and more popular.
Now I cannot go to all these malls that I
was going all alone.
So, I wanted somebody to be with me, to save
me.
So, you know what I'm saying?
I bought myself my first dream house.
I bought myself my dream car.
And just a note, to you as well, I was getting
such female attention that my engineering
college friends could only possibly dream
of.
So, I was having a time of my life.
And then something unusual happened, I got
used to everything and I felt cheated.
I stayed with all these dreams for 10 and
15 years of my life.
I was promised happiness and I was promised
success.
But all these things stayed with me just for
a few days.
And I'm punctuating me because I started from
zero money and zero recognition.
So, I was not happy.
How could that it be?
I
didn't like this version of success.
And the future me, again, was hearing the
present me.
But this time, I decided otherwise, I would
do something else.
So, that gets us to the second point, which
is the only truth, I won't take too much time,
I will just try to keep it short.
I figured something, I figured that something,
seemingly big things, were not that big once
I got them.
And looking back in the past, I realized that
maybe smaller things were way bigger.
And there was one thing that was missing in
my life, that was the cause of this illusion.
And that thing that was missing was NOW.
I was all of these years, just I was obsessed
about what's going to happen.
I used to draw those flow charts that we're
taught in schools.
If this happens, I'll do that.
And six months from now, I'll be here.
So, I want it to be in control.
I was so obsessed about my future, I was taking
the entire responsibility about the past,
but all I was doing was frequently swinging
from past to future, not living in actual
sense.
Well, I also figured that when I perform on
stage or in front of the camera, I'm so much
excited.
I am so much interested.
I was paying so much attention that there
was no room to think about the future or the
past.
I was just there in the moment; I was alive
in true sense when I was performing.
And for the first time, trust me, in a long
time, I understood the true meaning of success,
which was not money plus recognition, but
it was NOW plus excitement.
So, here I am right now, five years down the
line, money, and fame although still could
not earn back their reputation in my life.
But let me show you one thing, I have much
more of them than I had ever planned.
And the best thing, my college, one of the
professors was very dear to me, called me
recently about asking me to plan this interaction
with students.
And I very humbly requested that can I get
my degree back.
And
it's happening.
And I'm very excited, again.
Thank you so much, guys.