A very goodevening to all beautiful Steemians reading this right now. Yes it is yet another beautiful Saturday evening and guess what time it is? Yeah! It is time for your favourite relationship show on the block chain, "Saturday night with Zizy" Episode 17. Wow, we have come so far and going strong. As always, today promises to be very interesting. Fasten your seatbelt for it is going to be a joyride.

Last week on the show we talked about asking your partner for money in a relationship. It was divinely satisfying the amazing inputs I got from both those who commented on the block chain and those who joined me on airhawk discord server for the live radio show. A very big thank you to @esttyb, @burlarj, @one-person, @eurogee, @blessedman939, @dubem-eu, @bookons, @sola3097, @julietisrael, @alisonudeme, @rebeccafl, @korexe, @jeaniepearl, @shemzy, @mizdais, @darrenblinks @igweyakubu. You all are awesome. I also want to use this opportunity to wish a very happy birthday to someone who has been pivotal to the success of this show from it's maiden edition in the person of @surfyogi. You are a man with a golden heart. May this new age of yours bring more blessings and a fulfilled life.

Without much Ado, let us jump into the crux of the matter.
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RELATIONSHIP TALK WITH ZIZY

Every relationship is made up of two imperfect individuals trying to attain so level of perfection. Mistakes are inevitable in relationships. It is simply one of the attributes of a human. When issues arises in a relationship , knowing how to say these three letter words, "I am sorry", determines if things will be repaired and all will be well or perhaps, the relationship might just come crashing to an end. The willingness and ability of both partners in a relationship to realise their mistakes and take responsibility for it by apologizing is what differentiates a healthy relationship from an unhealthy relationship.

With how simple these words sound, some people find it very difficult to apologize in a relationship. Showing a lack of concern when there is a problem in a relationship creates a gap that is filled with resentment and anger. Having a partner who never says sorry conveys a message that says, " I really don't care about you and your emotions". In a healthy relationship, both partners should be able to put ego aside and wear each other's shows to understand how much they are hurting and be compassionate enough to apologize for their partner's pain not play the "I blame you", game.

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WHY DO PEOPLE FIND IT HARD TO APOLOGIZE?

Everyone understands the impact a simple genuine sorry can have in a relationship but some are blinded with the factor of who is right or wrong and wouldn't want to resolve whatever conflict is on ground because they believe they are not guilty. To them, they see apologizing as a form of admittance to actually being wrong and they have too much who and pride to let that happen. To some, apologizing means their partner will not realise their own wrong doings or behaviour after all they both had a part to play in it. In some relationships, it is a game of I am not apologizing until he or she apologizes first and this takes a toll on the relationship. Some especially men see saying I am sorry as a sign or weakness but what they do not understand is that apologizing is actually a Hallmark of strength. You know you may be ridiculed or humiliated but your relationship is worth more than your ego and so you set your ego aside and do the needful. sometimes,a partner believes whatever offence they may have committed us so grievous and would never be forgiven and so they do not make an effort to apologize. This is disastrous because the helplessness it breeds stops the offending party from taking the actions required to heal and mend the brokenness.

Apologies is no sign of weak character. Whatever the motive, apologizing is an acknowledgement of a wrong doing and giving your partner the power to forgive. The exchange of shame and power is at the heart of a healing process. It doesn't necessarily mean you apologize only when you are in the wrong. Even when you are not the one at fault, understand that apologizing helps you make the conflict between both of you to be resolved. It opens up the door for communication which allows you to reconnect with your partner. Taking responsibility even when you are not guilty simply means specifying what you did that you believe was wrong but also mentioning what you believe was not wrong on your part. When you apologize, it makes your partner feel better and develop an empathy towards you that leads to forgiveness.

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We need to know that we always have a choice to change a situation by changing and improving the way we express our love in action. Next week, we shall look at the best ways to genuinely apologize and get a result.

DATING TIPS:

Put away your phones. One of the biggest relationship tips is to give your undivided attention when your partner is speaking. Pressing your phone or chatting whist your partner is talking to you simply tells them that what you are doing at that moment is more important than them.

FUN CORNER (JUST FOR LAUGHS)

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If forcing your girlfriend for sex is rape then forcing your boyfriend for money is armed robbery. True or false? If you know, you know.

DATING TIPS

ANONYMOUS 1

Pease I am in a deep mess. Until few weeks ago I was dating a young man who I was forced to break up with because of his excesses. After breakup, we had an issue that warranted me to abuse him unknown to me that he has a video recording of us while having sex and me while sleeping naked. This video he showed to my girlfriend as a threat and a warning that if I go about town abusing him, he would be forced to release the video. I am shocked to know that he has a video recording of me. Whenever we are having sex, he uses his phone's light to shine unknown to me that he was recording. I am so scared. What if he actually carried out his threat? Please help.

ANONYMOUS 2

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Dear Zizy, I dated a girl back then in school. She is two years older than I am but age wasn't an issue as we were madly in love with each other. However, after graduation, I noticed a change in behaviour. She no longer calls or chats with me but she is always online chatting till midnight with Lord knows who. I send her recharge cards whenever she uses that as an excuse not to call me but still she wouldn't call. Recently she started uploading a picture of a guy who she claimed is just a friend whereas she has never uploaded my picture except once when it was a truth or dare game. Last week we met up and spent two days together. She told me about the pressure from home for her to get married in two years time and she knows I won't be ready in two years. She claims she loves me and doesn't know how to love another person but she wants us to double date to keep up with the demand. I don't know what to believe if my suspicion of her no longer being interested is valid or I am just being paranoid. Please help.

CONCLUSION

Wow! What a trip all the way down here. We have finally come to the end of the show. I hope you enjoyed every part of it? If you have comments for every segment, do not worry Steemit doesnt penalize you for dropping more than 1 comment on a post. Why not express yourself and check out other peoples comment too? It's always fun interacting.

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I hate to leave you but leave you I must.

Until next time when I come your way again, same time, same blog, more hosts, I remain

Yours truly

@zizymena.

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